Being the best of you means being the real you.
So often, we tend to create a societal version of our identity, spending many, many years, building a life around it. When what we are actually doing is trying to fit in, be liked, and please others - for all the wrong reasons. Things go well and good until something way down in the depth of our soul starts to gnaw at us, asking us to consider some new ideas, some new ways of living, and some new desires.
The wonderfully concrete and cohesive sense of “I am-ness” that we have created for ourselves becomes wobbly, as we’re called to reconsider what it is that we want and desire now at this point of our life.
And that is when the big question arises, “to be, or not to be?”.
From here, you can choose to resist the evaluation and opportunity for growth, forcing the status quo to remain. Which, paradoxically, is a sure-fire path to suffering and unhappiness. Or, you can get introspective and invite the process of change and growth to lead you to new horizons that, at one time, you would’ve never thought were possible.
Feeling disconnected from your genuine self and struggling to find your real identity can be a harrowing experience. But what you need to remember is that it's okay to be unsure about certain things. The human experience is all about learning and growing, which happens through change. No matter how disconnected you feel from your true self, it’s still always there and available to you.
Remember, it’s okay to change your mind about who you are, what you want, and what you believe in. To be human is to grow and change. Allow yourself to be human. Take pride in being human.
After all, living your life as the real you is the only true measure of success.